Peace vs. Piece of Mind

We will never experience peace of mind until we take back every piece of our mind.” – Bianca Baymon, Founder/Senior Editor of Silhöuette Magazine

What if I told you that your thoughts were not your thoughts? What if I told you that everything that you think about yourself and about the world was once an external idea that entered into your mind and became an internal thought?

The biological structure of every human being is composed of entrance-only or exit-only gates. Your eyes and ears are gates that only allow ideas and beliefs to enter, which is why you have to be careful what you see and hear. Your mouth is a gate that only allows ideas and beliefs to exit, which is why you have to be careful what you say. Every single thing that you see and hear becomes what you think and eventually what you speak…unless you have a filtering system on the powerhouse we call “the mind.”

There are two minds. One is the subconscious mind and the other is the conscious mind. The subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind because ideas and beliefs can enter without your active consent. When listening to a song, scrolling on social media, and watching a television show, most people are operating in their subconscious mind. Rarely does someone take the time to realize that every scene in the television show, every post they scroll past, and every line in that song is downloading itself into the mind. The biggest winner of that scenario is the marketing industry.

Marketers utilize tactics that take advantage of the natural vulnerability of the subconscious mind. The most successful companies are not the ones that have the best business plan or even the companies that have the best products. The most successful companies are the ones that are highly effective at creating a desire for a product or service in the subconscious mind of as many consumers as possible.

Take a moment and reflect. How many things do you need that were not always needs? Nobody knew they needed an iPhone until Apple’s marketing department convinced the majority of the world that they did. They were effective at creating a desire in the mind of many consumers and now they are one of the world’s most successful companies. They mastered the art of influencing the subconscious mind like many other companies, which is proof that the many forces we encounter every day are battling to enter our minds when our guards are down and our conscious minds have taken a backseat.

We can no longer allow external forces to affect our internal thoughts, beliefs, and desires. It is our turn to become masters of our own mind if we want peace of mind.

We will never experience peace of mind until we take back every piece of our mind that we’ve allowed social media, television shows, music, conversations, and societal structures to steal. We have to become more aware of the things, words, and people that we expose our minds to.

Don’t allow the subconscious mind to drive the direction of your thoughts and beliefs. Get in the driver’s seat and direct your thoughts. Direct your desires. Direct your beliefs. Direct your life! The moment you get out of bed every morning, you step into a mental battle. Are you prepared to fight?

7-DAY MENTAL AWARENESS CHALLENGE: Before you open your social media apps, play your favorite album, or watch your weekly television shows, I challenge you to check with your mind and your heart. Ask your mind and heart what condition it is in. If it isn’t at its optimal level of strength, then I challenge you to find something positive to expose your mind to. Protect your mind like your life depends on it…because it does.

Trust Iss(you)es

Nowadays a lot of people carry “trust issues” in their heart because of the past, but it is impossible to live life without trusting anyone. You trust that the gas from the station is real gas and that the pump actually filled your tank with the number of gallons that you paid for. You trust that the construction workers that built the highway you are driving on built it strong enough to not collapse. If the only way to get through day-to-day life is by trusting someone, then you can’t expect to get through a relationship without trusting the one that you are with.

There lies the question…how? How do you trust someone new with your heart after someone else has hurt you? While some may say to make them earn it, I learned that at the core of one’s inability to trust someone else is their inability to trust themselves. Therefore, in actuality it is impossible for someone else to earn what you can only give yourself…which is trust.

After someone breaks your trust, you subconsciously lose trust in yourself. You begin to question everybody that you may develop feelings for and you walk out of relationships just as guarded as you entered them. Also, you no longer trust your decision-making in men or women after the last time you chose wrong, but you can’t continue to let your past self-sabotage your future.

You have to learn how to trust yourself again, and the only way to do that is to…

  • Take responsibility for the role you had in your past hurt by admitting that you made certain decisions that got you there.
  • Take inventory of where you were emotionally, physically, and mentally when you entered that relationship.
  • Empathize with your past-self because you made the best decision that you could’ve at that place in your life and forgive yourself for any pain you caused.
  • Realize that you are in a better place now and that the situation taught you valuable lessons that won’t land you back in that situation.

I challenge you before the year ends to write a letter to your past-self including those four steps and let it go before the clock strikes midnight. Step into 2019 leaving your past behind and walking forward ready to experience the revolutionary loving and trusting relationship that you’ve waited your whole life for.